I debated at length. I considered whether I should weigh in on the popular topic of narcissism. I know it both personally and as a student of political science and philosophy. I decided not to revisit my own experiences. I also chose to ignore the persistent inner voice whispering, “You’re not enough.” Instead, I explored philosophies on human nature. I examined how they relate to the ongoing creation of narcissistic individuals and societies.

The Rise of Glamour Psychologists

I’ve noticed that well-intentioned “glamour psychologists” on social media have adopted and redefined narcissism. Narcissism is hardly a new concept. It is a tale as old as time. In today’s world, everything is condensed into bite-sized explanations. These glamour psychologists often use narcissism in a trendy way. They describe a “lack of self-knowledge”—sometimes as a badge of honor or a path to fame.

Philosophical Perspectives on Human Nature

We see different perspectives when we examine theories of human nature. These perspectives come from political philosophers like Thomas Hobbes, John Locke, and the ever-popular Niccolò Machiavelli. They wrestled with the idea that humans are either innately narcissistic. Alternatively, they considered that humans lack self-awareness from birth.

As a romantic idealist, I appreciate Locke’s theory of tabula rasa. This is the idea that we are born with a clean slate, neither brutish nor self-serving. However, as a mother, I believe that our purpose for being born influences us. The intentions behind our birth have an effect. Additionally, our upbringing and environment interact with these elements. They either redirect or amplify our tendencies toward self-interest.

Historical Roots of Narcissism

In my view, narcissism has been discussed ever since humans first recorded their experiences. They used rocks, papyrus, or, later ink. People shared stories about their environment, family, or even acts of human sacrifice. Mesopotamian cuneiform and Egyptian hieroglyphics depicted these experiences as far back as 3,000 and 4,000 BC.

I believe Hobbes would agree that it’s impossible to control every human impulse. His philosophical descendant, the English poet Alexander Pope, would agree too. After all, Pope’s famous line, “To err is human, to forgive is divine,” remains timeless. I hope to create something just as lasting as I work on forgiveness through music!

Recovery, Prevention, and Responsibility

In the meantime, all I can do is offer billions of Narcissist victims suggestions for recovery. Anyone seeking authenticity can also contribute to prevention. We can also act suitably, leading by example to weaken Narcissism’s pervasiveness. Some clear players carry the tremendous weight of this task to fruition: Parents and Governments.  

They are the ever-vigilant executives of emotional balancing. They oversee all justice scales, carrying on their shoulders the weight of affection (patriotism) and discipline (law). They offer safety (peace) to prevent conflict (war) if they are good at it.

To be good at it, they need to be relentless as leaders in their pursuit of serving over earning. Alas, not all parents or elected officials are adept at it. Some choose their position. Others are thrust into it. Some eventually succumb to it. This is why Narcissism will last centuries beyond our time. I’m not sure how much time we have left.

If Narcissism wins, the planet will explode in a spectacular ball of flames. Alternatively, it will become a gigantic Williams and Sonoma-approved ice ball. This will be perfectly shaped for the glass of bourbon our creator will need after the final destruction.

It’s Not All Doom and Gloom

So, with that resounding optimism, I convey this message. If you do not choose to have children with the intention of nurturing emotional balance, don’t procreate. It is important to give a safe environment. I’m a massive fan of the bright young folks who opt out of having children. They know they can’t, or are unwilling to, endure such a leadership position. They know and accept their skill set. Cheers to breaking the cycle. One, two, three, plus four, chanting for a “Narcissist-less” world! Who Hoo!  

That said, I feel melancholy for the ones who are barely surviving. They struggle in the treacherous economic environment provided by their Narcissistic leaders. I will not apologize nor qualify my opinion to leadership or laypeople enslaved to economics.

I dig dollars a lot, but not at the behest of freedom.  Freedom is not a tool like money is; it’s a way of life, and I prefer it. Population decline acts as nature’s defense mechanism. It protects against the pervasive species of Narcissists. Narcissistic societies are suffocating nature to death.

Childhood, Leadership, and Generational Cycles

State officials were once children. My observation is that those who aren’t very good at their adult jobs had one of two childhood experiences. Either they were adored too much as children, or they suffered from an adoration deficit. Their makers, who experienced much the same, contributed to this situation.  

Generations of inadequacy drive us into a black hole. Alternatively, maybe it’s just a need for obnoxious approval. Our beloved, enigmatic Earth is moving at a speed far faster than 120 mph. I dramatically liken it to the speed of light.

Takeaway

Glamour Psychologists will continue to offer us fashionable skill. They exist for the rest of us who live on purpose or due to “err.” They help us recognize Narcissism. They also help in preventing or pardoning it. This is much like their more polished philosophical predecessors did. I urge you, though, to try and understand that there is way more to this “disease.” There is far more than what meets your eye on a social media post or reel. It is also more than what you learn about yourself and your emotional perpetrator in a therapist’s office.